Category: friendship

My Prerogative…

Not too long ago I wrote a post in here which turned out to be a sensitive issue to some folks.  For that, I was accused of being “insensitive”, and was slammed and was condemned “repulsive”.  First of all, this is MY blog so that means that I have the right to write whatever the hell I want to in here.  I’m not forcing anyone to read what I write so if you don’t like what you see in here, hey, you know where the door is so please, let yourself out.

But you know what, as much as I don’t want to be affected by those comments, I was.  Hey, I’m only human.  I was feeling pretty bummed out, mood was down, and I lost all desire to write.  It was a shame coz I was finally starting to get a grip on my momentum.  Then, out of nowhere, help came to me in a form of a man.  Yo Mcbrian!  If you’re reading this, thank you!

Though our friendship is new, he’s done something which not many have even thought of doing ~ he made an effort to really get to know me.  He tries hard to get into my head just so he understands how my mind really works.  I really appreciate that about him; it shows that he’s genuinely interested in forming and building a strong foundation of friendship with me.  Now, that is a rare find! 

Paddy, if not for you, I would still be sitting in the den licking my wound and feeling sorry for myself.  Thanks for telling me to snap out of it and nudging me to come out again.  Thanks for the pep talk ~ I needed that.  You’re right, I shouldn’t have to apologise for doing something I love ~ writing.  It is a gift from God and I shall continue to use it for as long as He permits.


Free Your Mind…

Mandy, a good friend of mine, called me earlier this evening to talk about my post.  She has been following my blog but hasn’t been leaving any comments.  She basically called to give me her comment or rather complaint.  She said that my posts are too long that she spends quite a long time reading each post since she normally uses her phone to access it.  I had to laugh hearing her remark.  I told her to use her computer the next time and then maybe she’ll see it differently.

Apart from her one complaint about my posts, we also talked about other things among which was about a few mutual friends that we share.  I’m not going to go into details on what was said but the gist of it is that there are a few of our friends who single out a couple of folks from our circle of friends and giving them something extra than what they give the rest – extra respect, extra attention, extra acknowledgement.

This isn’t the first time I had this conversation with Mandy and each time this topic comes up, I always argue about the same thing:  shouldn’t you treat all your friends the same; with the same level of respect, same kind of attention and same level of acknowledgement?  Why should someone be held on a slightly higher level just because they used to hold a so-called celebrity status once upon a time ago?  Does that make them extra special that they should be treated like some VIP?  I don’t think so.

To me, it is very simple; you should treat people how they deserve to be treated regardless of their popularity status, background or lifestyle.  Friendship doesn’t just happen, no.  It is something that you need to work on.  And of course, it takes two to tango. 

I personally don’t expect much from a friend except to receive an equal share of what I put into a friendship.  Celebrity status, good background, an impressive bank account are all not important to me.  What’s important is sincerity.  What someone brings to your personal life is equally important.  What good is having a celebrity friend when he doesn’t have the time or day for you?

So to Mandy (I know you’re reading this) and also to those who feel the need to put friends on a higher level because of their popularity status – please change your mindset.  An Average Joe would make a much better friend if he shows you the same kind of interest in you as you do in him.