Every Sunday I look forward to reading the Starmag page of The Star newspaper and my favourite column is the Heart & Soul where it’s divided into two sections.  One section is usually about some heart warming story sent in by the public while the other section is a “Dear Thelma” column where people write in with all kinds of personal problems hoping that dear Thelma would shed some light for them.

I remember reading sometime in February about this guy who wrote in about his very messy life.  He’s a married man who is in love with another woman who is also a married woman.  According to this guy, he and his lover had everything – love, purpose, passion, companionship and a wonderful sex life.  He also mentioned that her husband lives abroad but didn’t say where his wife is located.

Two sons were born from their steamy love affair but both sons carry her husband’s name (the husband must either be really dense or totally clueless to not realise that the boys are not his kids) and because this bloke is not all that financially stable she turns to her husband for financial support. 

After the first son was born she took the boy abroad for a holiday to meet his ‘father’.  While she was away visiting her husband this guy had a fling which he claimed was solely for sex.  Then when she came back and found out, all hell broke loose but they continued to live together under the same roof.

Somewhere along the line, an old schoolmate of the woman (who is a lesbian) showed up and the two women started getting close.  She then told him that she’s starting to have feelings for her lesbian friend and out of anger he up and left their home.  He thought that by doing that she would come to her senses and break away from the lesbian but boy was he wrong!  She immediately asked her lesbian friend to move in with her and her sons.

Now this dude’s dilemma is not only having to deal with the fact that her husband is coming back for a holiday soon but also the fact that she has told him that she’s going to have a heart to heart talk with her husband about her relationship with her lesbian lover.  He said that he’s flummoxed and going bonkers as he doesn’t know what to do to get her back.

I have heard of quite a number of crazy affairs but I think this one takes the cake.  I mean, what was this guy thinking keeping a wife on the sideline and living with another woman and fathering her children?  Where does his wife fit into all this?  From the sound of it, it seems like he doesn’t give two hoots about his wife’s feelings at all so why doesn’t he end her misery by letting her go so that she can get on with her life?  And if he really loves this woman and his sons like what he claimed, why not be a man and face his responsibilities instead of having a sleazy affair with her on the sly?  If the truth comes out one day that he is the father of the two boys, what then? 

Personally, I feel that both the guy and the woman are selfish and irresponsible people who only think of themselves and their needs.  And the way I look at it, I don’t think what they have is love … lust is more likely.

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