Mandy, a good friend of mine, called me earlier this evening to talk about my post. She has been following my blog but hasn’t been leaving any comments. She basically called to give me her comment or rather complaint. She said that my posts are too long that she spends quite a long time reading each post since she normally uses her phone to access it. I had to laugh hearing her remark. I told her to use her computer the next time and then maybe she’ll see it differently.
Apart from her one complaint about my posts, we also talked about other things among which was about a few mutual friends that we share. I’m not going to go into details on what was said but the gist of it is that there are a few of our friends who single out a couple of folks from our circle of friends and giving them something extra than what they give the rest – extra respect, extra attention, extra acknowledgement.
This isn’t the first time I had this conversation with Mandy and each time this topic comes up, I always argue about the same thing: shouldn’t you treat all your friends the same; with the same level of respect, same kind of attention and same level of acknowledgement? Why should someone be held on a slightly higher level just because they used to hold a so-called celebrity status once upon a time ago? Does that make them extra special that they should be treated like some VIP? I don’t think so.
To me, it is very simple; you should treat people how they deserve to be treated regardless of their popularity status, background or lifestyle. Friendship doesn’t just happen, no. It is something that you need to work on. And of course, it takes two to tango.
I personally don’t expect much from a friend except to receive an equal share of what I put into a friendship. Celebrity status, good background, an impressive bank account are all not important to me. What’s important is sincerity. What someone brings to your personal life is equally important. What good is having a celebrity friend when he doesn’t have the time or day for you?
So to Mandy (I know you’re reading this) and also to those who feel the need to put friends on a higher level because of their popularity status – please change your mindset. An Average Joe would make a much better friend if he shows you the same kind of interest in you as you do in him.
It works both ways…just as we need two hands to clap. If people are extra nice to us, we would try our best to go out of the way to be extra nice to them in return.
Of course, there are times when thinking we could be very good friends, we would be extra nice to some people but if the gesture is not reciprocated, we would need to accept that and go look elsewhere – unless we have “other things” on our mind. And this gives rice to a problem – at times when we are nice to people, they may think we have something up our sleeves…when we are just being friends, being nice.
P.S. I do agree with Mandy. Your posts are very wordy aka long-winded… I would usually hop, step and jump…but on mobile, no choice – would need to scroll and scroll and scroll… LOL!!!
I agree with you about being nice to someone who’s nice to you but that wasn’t my point. My point is that we shouldn’t try to be extra nice to someone just because he has a celebrity status or he’s someone who’s mingling among the high society group. They should be treated the same as other friends unless he prooves to be an extraordinary friend.
My posts are too wordy? But that’s the only way I know how to express myself…
speechless…………
Hi Mandy, so nice of you to leave your mark
I agree with you, regardless of success I try to treat my friends the same way. With some people I tend to do more, and that has nothing to do with success, it has everything to do with how they treat others. Those people will go out of their way too help others, it’s obvious that they care and so I do acknowledge that.
I don’t mind reading long posts, occasionally I’ll tend to write long ones too. For thos sites where the writers tend to write a lot, I’ll just make sure I set aside enough time to read their posts thoroughly.
I found your site via suituapui, my only regret is that you don’t post more.
Cheers!
Thank you so much for dropping by, Opalt, I really appreciate your time and feedback. It is in my every intention to write more but somehow something always gets in the way (no excuse, I know). I will make it a point to write more. Again, thank you for your time and feedback.